Monday
Oct062014

* Body Love

We see plenty of articles and ads that tell us how unattractive crow’s feet, heavy thighs, stretch marks and our other physical imperfections are. Well, this article is to tell you how beautiful they are. Every scar, wrinkle, missing part, or protuberance is a beauty mark and a badge of honor for who you truly are. 

Your life is your greatest gift, and your presence on the planet at this time is your gift to the world. Once you understand the vast richness of your life, your wrinkles and cellulite can be perceived as wonderful adornments, and not things to be loathed and fixed.

Resist the programming of the beauty industry, which tries to set standards of perfection and eternal youth. Instead, see the glory in each of your unique qualities and physical features - just as they are. Adopt the attitude that they are things to honor and love, knowing that you’re perfect, beautiful and sexy just as you are.

By looking at yourself holistically, as a physical being and spiritual being on Earth, you will soon love your features.  Your life decisions, experiences and genetics have formed your magnificent form and beauty. They also contribute to our unique character. Giving birth, indulging in an abundance of delicious food, even unfortunate mishaps, not only shaped your physical attributes, they formed your unique character. The accidents that caused your scars may have also made you a stronger woman as a result. Your flabby muscles may be the outcome of your primary focus to study and develop your intellect.

Become conscious of how your features may influence the way you present yourself to the world. Instead of hiding, hating, and feeling embarrassed or ashamed of them, embrace and love every aspect of them, and proudly appreciate and display your unique physical qualities. They tell your story and make you an interesting person.

Here’s a powerful beauty exercise called Body Love. Closely examine a part of your body that you don’t particularly like or wish to ‘fix.’ Write down its memoirs and capabilities, including your life choices, happenstances and talents that helped to form it. Also list how it contributed to who you are today. If you were born with a particular feature, focus on how it formed your present-day identity. 

This simple exercise will help you see the value of your special features, and help you to perceive them as marks of exquisiteness. You may actually love them for all they say about you, and for all that they do for you.

For example, by beauty industry standards, my hands aren’t attractive or feminine-looking.  When I was younger, I tried to keep them from view. But now I honor every age spot and scar, for they hold stories of my adventures. And I love them for their capabilities to create art and write and do an infinite number of other things. Yes, I use hand creams to keep them as healthy and smooth as possible, but I don’t hide them or feel ashamed of them.

I am an advocate of healthy living and treating our body with respect. And if you do decide to change your body, it will be a conscious choice, rather than a response to the pressure of beauty industry standards.

But by honoring yourself exactly as you are, you will love yourself more deeply. We’ll also behold and appreciate the vast differences and unique features of others.  This would be a beautiful thing! 

Thursday
Sep182014

* Yoni Power with Yoni Yoga

Luna Bloom, by Meloney HudsonWhen you think about your vagina, what’s the first thing that pops into your mind? Sexual pleasure (or absence of it)? The baby you birthed through it? Your period? Your upcoming gyno exam?

In our culture, we typically think of the yoni as a sexual/reproductive region.  After all, it does drive us to mate and procreate, and provides great pleasure when given special attention.  But in all actuality, your vagina is more than a physical region; it’s also the source of potent energy and the home of your feminine spirit.

The Sanskrit term for vagina is Yoni, and this term also means uterus and ‘source of life.’ I use this name when referring to our girlie parts, because it’s a respectful title for the Queen of our physical domain. This multidimensional region is so special that ancient religions considered the yoni as the symbol of the Great Goddess, and worshipped it with great respect and honor. Taoist, Tantric and other energetic and spiritual masters recognized the power of the pelvis to heal and revitalize the entire body for enduring youth and spiritual enlightenment. 

You can apply these practices to your life today. The rewards are numerous, and include: improved pelvic health and overall well-being; amplified self-love and self-appreciation; an upsurge of youthful radiance; enhanced overall sexiness; and increased personal power and confidence. 

Following below are descriptions of each aspect of your magnificent yoni, along with simple and effective practices that will amplify your yoni power.

Physical Aspect

Your yoni and the area around it consists of organs and muscles encased in a pelvic girdle. This area influences you’re the health and well-being of your entire body. A toned vagina contributes to greater sexual pleasure and juicier energy. Strong hip bones and muscles provide ease of movement, and supports the structural function of the rest of the body.  By strengthening your yoni and pelvis, you improve your health. 

Yoni Yoga addresses the physical aspects of the pelvis.To strengthen your hips, dance with hip-focused moves and leg extensions. This fun and easy exercise can be done in your living room to your fave song. It strengthens and tones hip muscles and increases flexibility.

To strengthen and tone your vaginal and PC muscles, simply perform Kegel exercises (squeezing and releasing the vaginal muscles).  This can be done while watching TV, driving, or while meditating.

Energetic Aspect 

Your reproductive organs are the source of creative life-force energy, which is the energy that gives you Yoni Yoga activates sexual, life-force energy.life. When activated and harnessed, this essential energy can be utilized to heal, purify and revitalize the entire body. The pelvis is also the location of your second chakra (energy center), which is the font of creative, emotional and sexual energy. This energy enhances your overall energy, feelings of sexiness and radiant beauty, which exudes outwardly and positively influences others. Yoni exercises can activate and balance this energy.

Here’s one easy exercise. Say the mantra “oooh” slowly as you sexily move your hips. (Oooh is the seed sound that stimulates second chakra energy.) Repeat the “ooh” sound over and over as you move your hips and stroke your body. It’s as if you’re making love to yourself. After a few moments, when you feel an increase of your sexual energy, stand still and inhale through your nose, and imagine the energy flows up your spine from your yoni to your head. Hold your breath and squeeze your yoni muscles to contain the energy. This allows the sexual, life-force energy to infuse in all of your cells.  After a few seconds, exhale through your mouth, release the yoni squeeze. Repeat two more times.    


Spiritual Aspect
Yoni Yoga helps us connect with our authentic essence.Your yoni is the home of your spirit and feminine qualities, including compassion, love, nurturance, intuition, sensuality, and wisdom. Your yoni also holds your sexual history (including past-life), which contributes to the formation of who you are today as a woman. It also influences your spiritual vibration.

The yoni is symbolic of Goddess. Pre-patriarchal civilizations worshipped the Great Goddess and many goddesses, revering their powers of love, fertility, sexuality and creativity. Your yoni represents of the Goddess within you, and your own powers of love, sexuality and creativity, as well as your feminine attributes that enhance the world. 

You can honor the spiritual aspect of your yoni and increase your spiritual vibration with a simple gratitude prayer. Take a moment to be still, and thank her for her important role in your life. Thank her for her health and her influence on your womanhood. Vow to protect her and treat her with honor and respect. Forgive yourself for any so-called “mistakes” you may have made with your yoni.  Shower her with love and devotion.

Practice these every day and you will increase your yoni power exponentially. Love yourself and love life!!! Here’s to YONI POWER!

Yoni Yoga is a system of simple meditations, movement and exercises that address each aspect of your yoni.  Performing even one simple exercise a day provides great benefit. Order your free Yoni Yoga practice guide today!

Sunday
Jul062014

* 8 Steps to Conscious Casual Sex

An article in Time Magazine claims that casual sex is good for you. Citing a study conducted by NYU and Cornell, performed on college students and the effects of casual encounters on their well-being, the article reveals that zesty sessions with penetration (oral, vaginal and anal) improve self-esteem and overall well-being, compared to not having sex. This challenges the popular belief that casual sex triggers low self-esteem and depression.  http://time.com/2917281/casual-sex-is-good-for-you-study/

It’s true; a zesty session with a sexy friend can be an ego-boost that may stimulate an amazing ‘high’ that the whole world can see. And the health benefits are abundant; sex is great exercise that lowers blood pressure and eases stress. Women who engage in regular sex live longer than their celibate sisters. But it’s also true that the chemical, physical and emotional makeup of a woman can cause detached intimacy to be perilous to her well-being. It can often cause emotional bonding with even the most inappropriate partner. And one-night stands may trigger disappointment, confusion and regret.  It’s becoming clear that casual sex is neither right nor wrong, and when presented with a potentially erotic frolic, it’s best to make a choice based on what’s right for you.

But think about it. Wouldn’t it be nice to have a temporary lover, with whom you can generate all the sexy goodness, without the risk of hurt feelings and self-judgment afterwards?  It may be possible. The 8 Steps to Conscious Casual Sex can help make your rendezvous considerate, caring and clean, so that you can enjoy the benefits of physical closeness, while reducing the risks. Keep these tips in mind the next time an offer for a snuggle arises!

8 Steps to Conscious Casual Sex

1)    Remember, casual sex is a choice. Make your decisions based on a deep awareness of who you are and what you want. 

2)    Communicate. As the heat of a sexy situation rises, engage in a conversation with your partner and share your intentions before going all the way. Determine if this is just a stress-relief session, or the first step of exploring a potentially long-lasting relationship. Be sure to express your individual needs and post-rendezvous expectations, too. And don’t be vague about it. If you require a follow-up call or email the next day, say so. If you want to never see him again afterwards, say it.  If you are in disagreement, decide whether or not it’s worth it to continue. Talking may cool off the moment temporarily, and in some cases, it may be for the best. Remember, the goal is to avoid hard feelings and post-sex angst for both parties.

3)    Honor and respect your partner. Your paramour is a human being with feelings - not just a penis or vagina to satisfy your needs. Keep his or her best interests at heart, and care about what goes on in her or his head. Maintain respect for him or her before, during and most of all after your session. Once your romp has wrapped, it’s not over. A human being is still present. Resist your temptation to get dressed and get away as quickly as possible. Continue your attention to his/her thoughts and body language. Hug with feelings. Depart with appreciation. Honor him/her from beginning to end.  

4)    Enjoy your encounter with gratitude. Few things in life are as fun, pleasurable, and beneficial to the body and spirit is good sex. Be appreciative of your partner’s willingness to indulge you with sensuality and satisfaction. Thank your partner for his or her time, body, energy, fun, etc., before you say goodnight.

5)    Follow through with your pre-sex agreement.  If you affirmed that you would talk the next morning, talk. If you said you wouldn’t make a big deal about it afterwards, don’t email long letters later pining for him/him. Following through with your agreement is respectful and compassionate, not to mention, a sign of integrity. 

6)    Communicate more, if necessary.  If your agreement did not include communicating the next day, but your partner contacts you, have the courtesy to respond, even with just a few words. Sex is powerful. Sometimes the emotional after-effects can take one by surprise. Have the compassion and courage to listen to your suitor. Assure him or her that he/she is a wonderful human being and all is well. Sometimes that’s all he or she needs in the dimming afterglow. If he/she wants more than you agreed to, remind him/her of your agreements and gently express that you would like to keep them as such.    

7)    Feel empowered and take responsibility. Once you agreed to engage in deep intimacy, you became a responsible and willing participant. Even if he doesn’t call after he said he would, let it go and focus on the many benefits you received. No one can make you happy for the long haul except for you. Don’t let someone’s lack of follow up or disinterest chip away at your joy and self-esteem. Be happy! You chose to take the risk and you, too, got something out of participating.

8)    Learn from the experience.  If you discover that casual sex is more like a casualty to your spirit, tuck this info into your back pocket for future reference. Move through this one as best as you can without regrets. Own your responsibility as an empowered woman who received pleasure and health benefits. 

Of course, this all goes without saying; enjoy sex responsibly and use protection!  Love on!